Are you in a relationship or marriage where things are changing around you? Maybe your children are no longer babies, or possibly everyone has grown up and out of the house? Or might this be a time when the big house with big bills are something you want to let go of?
It’s crazy how sometimes this happens suddenly…even after years of anticipating. Couples get the amazing gift of changing themselves along with the changes in work and family – and dogs getting old too.
I have always believed that the healthiest marriages are the ones where partners talk to each other; thus, here are some questions to contemplate together. Make an appointment with your partner to sit with these questions and share your thoughts. Consider the possibilities that can be true for you as you make up a new way of being.
My husband and I love long drives in the southwestern landscapes where we talk about everything under the sun. During our talks all our hopes and dreams come to the surface. I have always assumed that all married couples did this too, but I have come to realize that many don’t. So I have created all kinds of couples questions to support couples on their journeys. One of my clients shared this below:
On December 31, 2014 my husband and I sat down and reviewed the year with Coach Helene’s End of Year Questionnaire. The result was a commitment to make a major change in our life which resulted in a move that we had been talking about for 5 years. Within six months we had rented an apartment in Denver, given away many things we did not need, sold our house and bought a new one in Aurora, CO. Everything fell into place easily so we knew it was the right thing to do. We are grateful for Helene’s inspiration that spurred the action that we were able to make the changes that have resulted in new joy in our lives. ~ Anne, Aurora, CO
- What is most important to you?
- What do you wish to stop doing or let go of?
- What is no longer important to you?
- Describe your ideal weekly schedule.
What are you waiting for that you can move forward more quickly on now?
Create a vision of what you most want for your marriage in this upcoming year. Consider also what you want your shared life to be like in the next 5 years. Actions you take this year may be stepping stones to your more ideal life.
When a marriage goes through seasons of change there is a natural letting go of what no longer serves you as a couple and sometimes it may be hard to release old things, people, patterns that are no longer serving you.
Work on the day to day details so that you can then work on the financial strategy to support how you want to live.
You may want to choose a Theme for your year to engage the fun of remembering what is most important to you as a couple.
What are they?
What will it take to remove them?
We all have our own life to pursue, our own kind of dream to be weaving.
And we all have some power to make wishes come true, as long as we keep believing.~ Louisa May Alcott