Mother-daughter relationships are complex and diverse. Some mothers and daughters are best friends. Others talk once a week. Some see each other weekly; others live in different states or countries. Some spar regularly. Some avoid conflict. Others talk through everything. And undoubtedly, there’s a hint of all these things in most relationships. There also are ups and downs, no matter how positive (or prickly) the relationship. –
I have not offered a Mother Daughter retreat in a long time until just recently a client who has been on retreat with me in the past asked me to do so. She had recounted to me how her past retreat has grown her life and now she was ready to give her adult daughter not only the gift of experiencing what a women’s coaching retreat is like but also a chance for the two of them to strengthen their relationship.
I was hesitant to offer it as my experience in the past few years has been that when I do offer a retreat only one or two mother/daughter pairs register. But I went ahead and did the planning and now have it on my menu of spring offerings. So far to date there are no firm registrations. (however there is still time…)
This doesn’t surprise me. In my women’s practice I hear almost every week how women feel disconnected from their mother; from their adult daughter.
They want to be closer but for many reasons they aren’t. At the core what I hear is that they don’t understand each other. And they don’t know how to accept each others choices so there is a lot of judgement around each others lives.
And so that I feel that plays into why women don’t want to commit to spending a weekend or overnight in a coaching retreat. They are afraid of what they may feel; what topics may come up; what nerve may get hit. It’s easier to not.
My experience of what happens at one of these retreats is that mothers and daughters turn into friends.
They often transcend the gap of who they think they are and they begin to see each other as women on the path of life. Much like the great benefit that all women have when they come on retreat, mothers and daughters find themselves connected, heard and accepted.
That is always my goal as a Retreat Coach: to help women become more of themselves. To support women to be ok with what is and empower them to change the things in their lives that no longer work for them.
The retreat process is powerful medicine for mothers and daughters would they but allow for it.
This retreat will be no different. The women who come will find that they are linked to each other in mystical ways that can give them more of what the seek in their inner lives.
What will they get? I can’t guarantee anything except that they will learn something. And from that learning their life will be changed.
Helene Van Manen is the mother of Sierra and Briana and the grandmother of Scarlett. She trains women to lead retreats through www.RetreatCoaches.com and takes women on retreats on all topics. Ultimately she guides women to know that they all come from one Great Mother (Earth). For more info about the retreat April 30, 2016 read here